Lindsay WarringtonParamedic - Hastings Quinte, Firefighter, Wife, Mother, Entrepreneur
This is one of the more difficult things I have had to try and write in a long time. Telling a story about myself, and sharing with others my personal life details is not something I am strong at. However, I feel inspired to share a particular part of my life. A part in which has played a significant role in making me who I am today.
I am by no means a known iconic name or an individual with my face on a billboard within my local community. I do not hold an official title or lead a special organization. I am just an everyday woman. I love, inspire, teach and encourage, as a wife, a mother, a paramedic, a firefighter and an entrepreneur.
I feel a huge sense of accomplishment and great pride when I reminisce on what I have done in my life so far. As I sit here and reflect, I think about the places I’ve been, the people who have contributed in my life and the struggles I have encountered along the way. My driving force throughout most of my life has always been doing what others say I can’t do. When I hear ‘you can’t’ or ‘no’ I take it as motivation to find another way. My mom often tells me that I am like a bull in a china shop when it comes to knocking down barriers and driving myself to reach goals and achievements. She credits my strong will, determination and dedication to my becoming the successful women I am today. I will say that it did not come easy by any means. I faced so many obstacles and downfalls throughout the years, and the driving force I have today came from one of my most challenging obstacles that I have ever had to face…
For a good part of public school and pretty much most of my high school years I was bullied. For as long as I can remember it was a daily occurrence of being picked on, belittled, harassed, threatened and excluded for reasons back then I did not understand. I spent a lot of time avoiding certain people and specific places just so I did not have to face the daily re-occurring conflicts. For the most part, I passed the days and time by keeping to myself, staying invisible as much as possible and
engaging myself in sports, music and as many extra curricular activities as I could. It wasn’t until one day, after many years of bullying, I faced one head on and found my breaking point.
For better words, I snapped! Something inside of me said enough is enough and I finally stood up for and defended myself. From that particular moment I found a new person that had been shut out and locked away that I never knew existed. I no longer felt the need to walk on broken eggshells or avoid people and places out of fear. I directed all my hurt, anger and intimidation into standing out and not let anything or anyone stand in my way. I was done letting bullies control me and I was
now driving forward and conquering barriers and obstacles that once stood in my way.
For those of you that know me well today, I guess you could say my outgoing, head strong, loud voice and overthe top personality was sparked from that particular moment in time.
This is a part of my life I am not overly fond of or I like to even remember. It is a part of me that not a lot of people are even aware of, including some of my family.
Today, I share this aspect of my life, as it is a big part of who I am now. As unnerving as this is for me to share in such a public form, I also find a sense of relief and feel blessed that this event in my life has contributed to my many successes. Perhaps someone reading this may be able to relate or knows someone that can relate. I
wish that no one ever has to face bullying, but unfortunately the stigma is real, even more so today then it was 20 years ago.
If there is something to take from this experience in my life it’s that you can’t change the way people feel about you or how they will treat you, so don’t try. Just live your life with purpose, determination, a full heart and most importantly…. be happy. Don’t be afraid to stand out and be an individual. Don’t be a shamed of whom you are or where you come from, and don’t let the fear of the unknown intimidate you or break your confidence.
Life can be overwhelming, yet exhilarating at the same time. Its how you deal with each situation that defines you. At one point in my life, I let bullying define me.
But then… I didn’t. I used it as my driving force and today I can proudly reflect on who I am because of it.
“I fall, I rise, I make mistakes, I live, I learn, I’ve been hurt But I’m alive. I’m human, I’m not perfect
but I’m thankful.” ~Unknown.