Shelby LeonardShop Girl
Shelby's Story :
I don’t consider myself to be inspiring: dorky, scattered, perhaps determined but not inspirational.
Actually, I turned down the nomination because I didn’t feel as though I should be a part of these amazing group of women.
But then I thought about it, and someone thought to nominate me, so I graciously accepted.
I don’t feel as though I’m inspiring because I’m simply doing what all working moms do by trying to juggle work outside the home and juggle home.
BUT please know I have chosen this because I could NOT stay at home full time with my kids. That would have been WAY TOO HARD for me. Instead I wanted to work on the business I’ve been growing with my husband for 20 years, while trying to raise small children, to be a wife, a daughter, a friend; and realizing we’ve been lied to as women when we were told we could “have it all”.
Sure we can, but at a price, and that price is usually ourselves.
I turned to my social media platform to talk about the struggles I was having trying to do all the roles, and failing at most, or at least being mediocre. And then on top of trying to juggle all these roles, and dropping a few balls most of the time, we are left dealing with new hormones, new bodies, and new (yet stereotypically old) expectations.
Yet we are to embrace it all under the beauty of motherhood.
But I’m not buying it. It’s hard and we should be given the opportunity to talk about that.
I don’t think I’ve ever heard a man preface a difficult day with “I love my kids BUT…”
I want women to remove that sentence from the dialogue. Of course you love your children, everything we do is for them, but it’s still hard, really hard, and emotional, so we should be allowed to talk about our new emotions and experiences in an open and non-judgmental way.
We should be able to speak about a miscarriage, or postpartum anxiety, and not be seen as weak.
I want to change the discourse around motherhood to reflect what it is truly about. The trial and error of it all.
We are allowed to be tired, and scared, and angry, and joyful, and ssuccessful, and anxious, and overwhelmed.
So perhaps that is why someone found me inspirational, because I’m not content dealing with the status quo.
Silence will not make us stronger, but supporting one another will.