Amber’s Words : Outgoing Compassionate Strong
Amber’s Story :
Today I am the mother of a wonderful, kind hearted, strong spirited, young lady who seems to have an old soul and in which we call our rainbow baby.
We fought hard to bring her into this world and when I allowed myself to bond completely with her around 5 months; I was asking her which name she would like.
She had a choice of and don’t laugh. Saphera, Oceanna and Faith. She only kicked me when she heard Faith so I say she named herself.
It is little moments and stories like these that are what make life amazing.
To this day she loves hearing that story.
I am also the wife of an amazingly supportive husband who takes all of my uniqueness in stride.
We were friends first and built a very strong foundation that makes taking on the rough days easier and the great days more memorable when they are spent with family.
We have been together for 22 years and married for 8.
Married life is not always easy but no matter how frustrated or bogged down with the stresses of any given day or in the moment of a disagreement, we can take a step back and say I love you or deal with a bigger matter at hand, recollect and then finish our discussion with an open mind and heart.
Sometime the hard things need to be said and discussed in order to become stronger as a unit.
It also helps that over the years he has become a wonderful cook.
We are lucky to have a very large support system in which without our successes would have been much more difficult.
I do believe that it takes a village and I am very thankful for our wonderful little village.
I grew up in a very small town, I was very much awkward and unsure of myself as I grew up way to fast and had trouble navigating my way.
I could go on and on about the misfortunes I faced however I chose to turn negatives into positives.
The main thing that got me through when it felt hopeless was the love of my family.
If my mother was unable to embrace me at the time or was the cause of my anguish at the time her unspoken love and that bond was there.
I may have taken on the role of mother here and there but the conversations and realizations although hard sometime has made the end result great.
Sometimes the things you are going through seems unsurpassable, but once you come out of it you reflect and come back stronger, wiser and ready for more.
I once read..Strong walls shake but never collapse.
I like to think that the misfortunes I faced have made me the person I am today and this is why we shouldn’t let our past define us.
We ultimately choose the way we treat people and how we let people treat us.
Sometime it can be dark..real dark..but look to the positive, mine is Love and compassion, it may sound weird but spread it..a smile and kind words can go a long way.
Go out of your way to do something nice for someone expecting nothing in return, take the second to pick up a cane for someone or hold a door for a gentleman maybe compliment someone out of the blue and watch his face light up.
These are the thing that make what I do such a wonderful job.
I have been in retail now almost 14 years and I still to this day love going out of my way to make someone’s day better to see that smile on what was a scowl 3 minutes earlier.
I enjoy being that person that helps someone without them having to ask by being able to read them and what they are in need of.
I am thankful for the people who have been there for me and helped me along the way.
People may try to bring you down but stay true to who you are and your integrity and the people that matter will take the time to see the real you!